Don't stumble over things that are already behind you. I think that just might be the essence of successful coaching. Good coaching focuses most of its attention not on the problems of the past but on what it will take to create a better future. The key questions in...

You know how it is when you have a song stuck in your head? Like your brain is stuck in a loop that just keeps playing over and over again? Very few of us make the mistake of thinking there’s anything helpful about being caught in that loop. While it isn’t doing us...

Imagine you’re heading to your car with your kids after a movie, and laughing about your favorite scene. You’re enjoying the beautiful evening and the time with your kids, and thinking in the back of your mind about how much fun you had at the beach with them last...

If you could develop one new skill, habit, or regular practice this year, what would it be? I'm going to suggest one that you may not have thought of -- self-compassion. Of all of the skills, habits, and practices I've worked on with clients over the years, it's one...

One of the best parts of life is spending time with people we love. And one of the best steps we can take to really enjoy that time is to actively appreciate the ways in which our loved ones enrich our lives. So let's turn our attention to appreciating the people who...

When the end of one year is in sight, we start to hear a lot about about making resolutions for the next one. And those resolutions tend to take the form of "Here's what I'm finally going to fix about myself." That approach may sound like it makes sense. After all, if...

The things we say, whether out loud or to ourselves, have a profound effect not only on how we feel, but also on what we do.  When we tell ourselves “I can’t do it” or “They’ll never allow it,” we undermine our own power and motivation to make change in our...

I was recently interviewed by a few journalists writing articles about either my book or my career change from corporate executive to positive psychology coach. They asked some great questions that encouraged me to distill the lessons of the research into the...

Getting over a painful experience is a lot like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.  -- C.S. Lewis Feeling stuck? In my work as a life coach and career coach, I work with people who feel stuck in a lot of different ways --...

  I usually write about things we can start doing to make our lives better, but it’s just as important that we stop doing the things that are getting in our way. So here are three things worth doing a lot less of, and some practical ideas about what to try...